An Approachable Guide to Accepting “No” and “Wait”

Three simple strategies that actually work — because they’re grounded in child development, not just discipline.

This 18-minute family course by Morgan van Diepen, M.Ed., BCBA walks parents through why hearing “no” is genuinely hard for kids (backed by research), sets realistic expectations using developmental norms, and then teaches three scripted response strategies you can start using today.

What You’ll Learn

• Why “no” and “wait” are developmentally hard — and what the research actually says about typical behavior
• No + Rationale: say no and explain why, clearly and calmly
• No + Alternative: say no and immediately offer a substitute choice
• Yes, when…: reframe the denial as a delayed yes with a specific condition
• Scripts, illustrated scenarios, and practice activities to make the strategies stick

Supporting material included: Behavior Norms in Neurotypical Children.